A groomsman or usher is actually one of the minor male attendants in a wedding ceremony aside from the bride and groom. In most weddings, it is regarded as an honor for a groomsman to be chosen, and usually, the best man chooses close friends and family members to serve as groomsman. The role of the best man is very important as he is responsible for the communication of the grooms wishes to his groom, which also involves the emotional support to the groom during this most crucial period in the marriage. Most importantly, the best man is there to help groom through the various important decisions of a wedding. The role of groomsman is usually fulfilled by the best man at the right age and at the right stage of the ceremony, although sometimes, there are some grooms who also have the responsibility of preparing the bride's wedding ring.
The duty of best man varies according to the culture and traditions of different countries. But typically, in most of the cultures, the best man is responsible for greeting guests and taking them for a meal, preparing the best man's speech for the couple after the reception, as well as acting as an usher during the ceremony itself. Other than that, best man also takes care of other duties such as decorating the venue for the wedding, making sure the wedding party wears proper attire, arranging seating arrangements, distributing the wedding cake, etc. These duties require the utmost professionalism and tactfulness. Thus, it is important for ushers to ensure the success of a wedding by being presentable and courteous to guests. Below are some of the duties of ushers at a typical wedding:
Duties of Ushers. Generally speaking, the wedding day is not the only occasion when best man will have to do official duties. Ushers also have to juggle between the various responsibilities of being a part of the wedding celebration, as well as maintain himself with a full stomach. Here are some of the common duties of a best man during the wedding day:
Responsibilities of Ushers. Ushers should make sure that the couple gets to enjoy their time together at the reception. They should make sure that the couple's gifts are received properly, check if there are any outstanding checks, and keep track if any guests have already paid for their reservation. Aside from that, they should also keep track of the RSVPs and attend any intermission. Ushers should also hand out red hat or sash, take photos of the bride and groom, and distribute invitations and program to the guests.
The Duties of the Maid of Honor. As the best man, your role is to help groom during the planning of the wedding. During this time, you will be responsible for keeping the schedule of the groomsmen (if any), reporting to the groom on the progress of their preparations, preparing the cake, and arranging for music and lights for the reception. You will also need to keep the guest list updated, assist with the gifts during the wedding, and give the grooms' best man a ring upon the formal walk down the aisle.
Wedding Planning and Arrangements. As the best man, you will definitely play a big role in the whole wedding planning process. You will need to have an idea on how to get the guests dressed for the event, where to buy the decorations, and what to do for the wedding day rehearsal. As for the grooms' preparation, you will probably be in charge of arranging his travel and housing. Just make sure that everything is done by the middle of August.
The Meaning of Your Speech. As the best man, it is your duty to deliver a great speech during the reception. This is where the newlyweds will hear your speech and get to know who you are and your relationship with them. The best man speech should include all the information about the newlyweds, including what the two of them look like, their childhoods and how they met each other. Also, be sure to include the wedding vows that you and the couple will be having after the speech.
Making the Day Go Well. You have to make sure that the preparations for the wedding go smoothly and without a hitch. The best man is responsible for making sure that the grooms' families are present on the day of the ceremony, making sure that the bridegroom gets to his best man's home and getting the best man to the grooms' home after the ceremony as well. Plus, you will need to keep the grooms' families updated with regards to any delays or cancellations with regards to arrangements. You can even arrange for the bachelor party for the groom as well if you want to celebrate his last night of single life with his friends before he ties the knot with his best friend.